“Boy with Flowers in His Hair”

one of my favorite paintings by my uncle, Paul Schaafsma

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“Are you too feminine for the RodeoH harness and tired of industrial looking strap-ons?

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mmmajestic:

The different parts of my gender crash together wildly, like a demolition derby. Most of the time it feels exciting and fun, but it is also frightening and painful at times. Today I shaved my face for the first time ever and while it was happening I felt a mixture of fear, uncertainty and mischievous joy. I can feel certain aspects of masculinity creeping in to the way that I understand myself and perform my gender and it unsettles me because I feel like I haven’t yet learned how to celebrate, re-purpose or trust it in the same way I have with femininity. Embodying masculinity with integrity is an intense responsibility that I don’t always feel ready for. Hot damn, that gender category comes with a lot of fucking baggage, entitlement and power, and I do not know if I am wise enough to navigate that in ways that don’t hurt other people. Gender seems so much bigger than me sometimes. It permeates everything around me in such complicated ways. Ways that I fear are unspeakable, although I guess I’m talking now. The lack of control and choice I have in this process shakes me in ways I would rather not admit. Still, here I am doing me as hard as ever, buying rogaine, shaving my face, going out in public and staring back into the eyes of those who try to erase and belittle me with their gaze. I don’t have the answers right now, so I guess all I can do is let this thing kick the shit out of me while speaking from my heart and wearing lipstick to the party.

Love always,

Majestic 

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rhizombie:

The simplistic formula that claims “you’re either pro-marriage or against equality” makes us forget that all forms of marriage perpetuate gender, racial and economic inequality. It mistakenly assumes that support for marriage is the only good measure of support for LGBT communities. This political moment calls for anti-homophobic politics that centralize anti-racism and anti-poverty. Marriage is a coercive state structure that perpetuates racism and sexism through forced gender and family norms. Right wing pro-marriage rhetoric has targeted families of color and poor families, supported a violent welfare and child protection system, vilified single parents and women, and marginalized queer families of all kinds. Expanding marriage to include a narrow band of same-sex couples only strengthens that system of marginalization and supports the idea that the state should pick which types of families to reward and recognize and which to punish and endanger.

Attended a conversation with Dean Spade yesterday. I’m in love.

this. this. this.

theworldpulse:

Ardhanarishvara

pansexualpride:

Ardhanareeshwara/Ardhanari is an androgynous deity composed of Shiva and his consort Shakti/Parvati, representing the synthesis of masculine and feminine energies. The Ardhanari form also illustrates how the female principle of God, Shakti is inseparable from the male principle of God, Shiva. Ardhanari in iconography is depicted as half-male and half-female, split down the middle.

fuckyeahtrannies:genderqueer:pinktacolovers:

The Cliks

The Cliks’ new band members.

That’s Canada’s Sexiest Man, Lucas Silveira, center. Brian Viglione (drums) is on the right and Tobi Parks (bass) is on the left. You may recognize Brian Viglione from his work in The Dresden Dolls with Amanda Palmer. You can read more about the new line-up here.

yes please.

veryemergency:

Rossanne on riot grrls

HELL YEAH ROSEANNE. this show had an embarrassingly large impact on me growing up.

crustyriotgrrl:

7 seconds - not just boys fun

Man you’ve gotta problem, who made you fuckin’ king
A macho pig with nothing in your head.
No girls around you, their place is not at gigs,
Don’t want ‘em on the dance floor ‘cos they’re weak.
A woman’s place, the kitchen, on her back,
It’s time to change that attitude, and quick.
(Chorus)
Showing us your phobias, you’re scared to see ‘em think,
You’d rather dress ‘em up in pretty lace,
All nice and colored pink.
You feel so fucking threatened,
When they stand out in front,
A stupid, passive piece of meat is all you really want
But it’s:
Not just boys’ fun (4x)
There’s girls who put out fanzines, others put on shows,
Yet they’re not allowed to get out on the floor.
Some make the music, well that you can accept.
Hell, maybe live you’ll get some tits and ass
You fucking moron, your brains have run amuck,
A girl’s only lot in life is not to fuck!

champagnecandy:

I liked this piece—I do see a good bit of skinny/”pretty” shaming in certain feminist spaces, which does drive me nuts—the conflation of a girl who looks thin with an eating disorder drives me nuts.

A coworker and I had this conversation today about her smoking vs. my soda habit, and I realized that we all pick at each other for bad habits that aren’t ours and write off our own—and in any case, sure it should be your choice to choose your vices.

But Jill’s point in this piece was that it’s not about skinny being bad, it’s about a beauty standard that says only white, young, thin, “feminine” women are beautiful. And we shouldn’t use that as an excuse to police each other.

Also, as someone rapidly growing obsessed with food politics and scarcity issues, I think the issue of food and eating is a lot more vexed than just beauty standards, as well.

queering:

Mr.Hepburn

via Hombrecitas